The power of compliments

The power of compliments

The story

A few years ago, I was working in a clothing store. It was kind of quiet, just a few people browsing. Suddenly, a lady walked past me and I caught a whiff of her perfume; it was unusual, not the type women usually wear, but I thought it was nice.
Without thinking much of it, I complimented her on the fragrance. She was surprised but very pleased, and told me why:

“You see, my husband died a few years ago. I packed most of his things, but I always kept his Daniel Hechter fragrance in the bathroom cupboard. Today, I wanted a change from the Chanel no.5 I always wear. I was thinking about him, and I tried it on. It means a lot that you noticed it just now.”

That simple, sincere compliment made that woman’s day in a way I could have never predicted. And in turn, her story and gratitude made mine. It still pops up in my mind from time to time, and to me it’s such a beautiful reminder of the effect compliments can have.

Compliments are a great tool to connect to others. And you can easily teach yourself to use them more often.

Making a connection

Compliments are a great tool to connect to others. And you can easily teach yourself to use them more often:
- Make it your goal to pay someone a compliment every day (or every week if you don’t get out much)
- Say things you actually mean: don’t tell someone “great hat” if you think it’s ugly. Just don’t.
- Be specific: “Good job!” is always nice to hear, but “You fixed that problem very fast, I’m impressed!” is way more powerful.

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